Ecstatic Birth

The term Ecstatic Birth refers to a wide range of positive birth experiences that lay the foundation for empowered motherhood. This term is trademarked by Sheila Kamara Hay who launched the global Ecstatic Birth movement in 2011 with a series of events that brought together leaders in female health, sexuality and childbirth, weaving each teacher's body of knowledge into a consciousness raising digital program for expectant moms and practitioners, now known as the Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions.

In the introduction speech to Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions, Sheila Kamara Hay says "An ecstatic birth is a childbirth experience that is full of ecstasy. Ecstasy is a feeling of overwhelming bliss, overwhelming pleasure, and it has a lot of different components to it: it can be physical ecstasy, physical pleasure; it can be mental, it can be spiritual as well. So, emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, all of these different components are part of ecstasy. An ecstatic birth can be any or all of these."

In the rest of the speech, we can find more details about what Ecstatic birth is and what it is not. Ecstatic birth is not necessarily an easy birth, although it may be easy. Ecstatic birth may be painful and may be painless. It may include sexual pleasure and orgasms and may not include it. Ecstatic childbirth is a fairly broad concept that includes a fairly wide range of scenarios in childbirth. It even includes a cesarean delivery. Yes, a cesarean can also be ecstatic if approached with the right attitude.

Ecstatic birth is the most natural thing that may happen to a woman when she and her birth team treat the nature of the bodily processes and birthing woman's sexuality with respect. While having all of it in mind, it is important to remember that total euphoria from birth and beautiful birth full of pleasure is ideal. It is an ideal for inspiration, and not a standard to be judged upon, because in birth like in any area of life even the best plans may fall apart.

At the same time, Ecstatic birth to a large extent is primarily determined by our ability to see it as ecstatic. And the difference between a traumatic experience and an ecstatic experience may simply be in how you react to it and how you perceive it. Ecstasy is present in every difficult life experience: the only question is whether you can find it or will remain a victim of your circumstances.

You can learn more about how to create Ecstatic Birth experience from a lecture of Sheila Kamara Hay below:

5 Pillars of Ecstatic Birth with Sheila Kamara Hay:

It is also important to mention that Ecstatic Birth is a synonym of the term Orgasmic Birth that is trademarked by world-famous doula Debra Pascali-Bonaro. Contrarily to the common misconception that unfortunately still seen even among birth workers, the term Orgasmic Birth does not refer only to those rare fascinating births where women experience something called birthgasms - spontaneous orgasms during labor. In their book, Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth Experience, Elizabeth Davis and Debra Pascali-Bonaro define Orgasmic Birth as "broad enough to include those who describe birth as ecstatic and specific enough to give voice to those who actually feel the contractions of orgasm and climax at the moment of delivery." Debra Pascali-Bonaro and Elizabeth Davis attended many births and talked to many women about their experiences. They say that many of their interviewees spoke of astounding pressure and sensation in the vagina as birth approached, followed by a flood of release and emotion as the baby emerged. So according to them, orgasmic birth refers to any birth experience "whenever a woman can look back on these moments with joy when the physical and emotional aspects of birth are fully experienced as pleasurable".

If you have not watched an amazing documentary Orgasmic Birth: the Best Kept Secret, we highly recommend you to do it soon, especially if you plan to have children in the near future. We, the founders of Mariposa project, have watched it long before conceiving our children. It played a big role in our education as future parents and helped us to create amazing positive birth experiences for our children, experiences most people never hear about. You can purchase both the movie and the book at Meanwhile, enjoy the Orgasmic Birth movie trailer.

I know that for many to believe the Ecstatic/Orgasmic Birth exists you need to see more examples. Here are 3 interviews with the women that were featured in the Orgasmic Birth movie.

Some of you may be curious about how birthgasms even possible. While there is very little research in this regard, some experts believe that besides setting up the right conditions that don't interrupt the birthing process, the likelihood to have a birthgasm is related to a woman's ability to be present, trust her body, and orgasm in her daily life. The sad reality is that our culture does not encourage us to do that. We live mainly in our heads. We live in a world where the medical establishment has normalized dysfunction, suggesting that most women can't experience powerful vaginal orgasms or that organ prolapses and urine inconsistency is part of normal after childbirth or a certain age. A holistic sex and relationship coach Kim Anami says that all of it is a myth and that every woman can fix those problems without surgery, and it is every woman's birthright to experience cervical orgasms which are the most powerful, pleasurable and life-changing orgasms a woman can have. In other words, the ability to experience all types of orgasms available to women can be trained. Have a look at the video below where Kim Anami shows us how birth and orgasms are related. It contains quotes from many more women and an interview with her client, who describes the difference between her two births and how her going from not having orgasms to experiencing the full range of orgasms (after taking Kim's classes) contributed to her second birth experience. It is extraordinary and, at the same time, not surprising that the bliss she experienced throughout her labor resulted in her daughter being born with a smile on her face.

Insight on Birth and Orgasms from a holistic sex and relationship coach Kim Anami:

Ecstatic Birth Culture

So if you watched the videos above, you don't need us to tell you that a woman who experienced pleasure, joy, love, and ecstasy as a part of her birth experience comes out of it empowered. She knows that if she has done this, she is capable of anything. The energetic expansion and rebirth she went through will enable her to raise a strong and psychologically healthy generation of children, and give so much more to her children than a woman who experienced trauma at birth.

We also know that to experience that level of pleasure and surrender, women can not be scared. To transform our current birth culture – which is dominated by fear and violence – into a birth culture centered around honoring women and recognizing the importance of a birthing mother's pleasure and psychological well-being, we need more women to educate themselves.

If you would like to contribute to creating Ecstatic Birth culture, go through the resources below, and share them with others even if you don't plan to have babies any time soon.

Moreover, to learn more about the practical steps we plan to make to create Ecstatic Birth Culture in Startup City Mariposa and its feasibility, click here.


Ecstatic Birth ebook by Sarah Buckley
You can start learning about the science and pleasure of Ecstatic Birth right away as you can receive this ebook for free right after subscribing for Sarah Buckley's newsletter. Sarah Buckley is a New-Zealand-trained GP/family physician that was featured in Orgasmic Birth documentary.
"Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying, and Pleasurable Birth Experience" by Elizabeth Davis & Debra Pascali-Bonaro
This is a book of our choice for all future parents. Whether women choose to give birth at home, in a hospital, or in a birthing center, Orgasmic Birth provides all the necessary tools and guidance to design the birth plan that's best for them. Featuring inspiring stories from mothers and their partners and filled with practical advice and solutions, this one-of-a-kind resource is the next frontier of natural, intimate childbirth.
The Functions of the Orgasms: The Highways to Transcendence by Michel Odent
Don't miss an opportunity to learn about connection between orgasms, births and lactation from the most revolutionary childbirth pioneer of our time Michel Odent. 'Fetus ejection reflex', 'milk ejection reflex', 'sperm ejection reflex', 'orgasmogenic cocktail' . . . These are examples of terms used by Michel Odent in his study of the ecstatic/orgasmic states associated with different episodes of human sexual life.
This book about male and female orgasms is an opportunity to convince anyone that humanity is at a turning point. It raises a question weather human intelligence and ingenuity have made love hormones redundant.
"Birth and Sex" by Sheila Kitzinger
In this brilliant book, Sheila Kitzinger discusses sex during and after pregnancy, during motherhood and the sexuality of birth. She shows that sex and birth are not such contrasting experiences after all. When birth is physiological, not medical or surgical, and a woman is free to be spontaneous, endorphins surge into her bloodstream in the same way as during sexual excitement.


'Birthgasm': A Literary Review of Orgasm as an Alternative Mode of Pain Relief in Childbirth by Lorel Mayberry & Jacqueline Daniel, J Holist Nurs. 2016
From the abstract: "Childbirth is a fundamental component of a woman's sexual cycle. The sexuality of childbirth is not well recognized in Western society despite research showing that some women experience orgasm(s) during labor and childbirth. [...] While there are indications of widespread use of complementary and alternative therapies such as hydrotherapy, herbal remedies, and breathing techniques for pain relief in childbirth, orgasm was not among those mentioned. Lack of recognition of the sexuality of childbirth, despite findings that orgasm can attenuate the effects of labor pain, suggests the need for greater awareness among expectant parents, educators, and health professionals of the potential of orgasm as a means of pain relief in childbirth".

Where to Find a Certified Ecstatic Birth Practioner?

If you are looking for a certified Ecstatic Birth Practioner to attend your birth, check for the EBPT alumni list here. If you live in Central America, your closest option will be the founder of Mariposa project Katerina Morin who got certified in 2017. It is her dream to create more educational opportunities for future parents and birth practitioners once startup city Mariposa is set up.

Online Classes for Future Parents:

Ecstatic Birth Preparations Sessions
Ecstatic Birth Preparation Sessions is a service provided by a certified birth practitioner, Katerina Morin. These sessions are private, and custom tailored for you and your desires, and can be part of your doula services package. However, they are temporary not available until Mariposa project takes off.
Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions
These are downloadable audio interviews (and transcripts) moderated by Sheila Kamara Hay and featuring Dr. Christiane Northrup, Ina May Gaskin, Mama Gena, and many other leaders in the worlds of childbirth and female health and sensuality.
Pain to Power Online Childbirth Preparation Course
Beautiful and very comprehensive Childbirth Course conducted by Debra Pascali-Bonaro, the director of Orgasmic Birth movie. We attended it in preparation for the birth of our second child. Highly recommended.
Sexy Mama Salon
Childbirth preparation class from holistic sex and relationship coach Kim Anami. You have heard the testimonial for this class in the last video above. If orgasmic birth experience is what you are aiming for, this salon is definately for you.
Coming Together Couples Salon
Your sex life and your intimate relationship with your partner will affect your childbirth. Learn how to keep the flame of erotic and sexual love for each other before the birth of your children, and you are well set for your life as a family. Most couples don't invest their time and money in the relationship, and that's why so many people end up in a divorce after having kids. Kids become a perfect excuse not to have sex, and people "grow apart". You don't have to end this way. Be proactive - and take this amazing course that was a life-changer for even the founders of this project.
Vaginal Kung Fu Salon
You need a strong vagina prior to birth. Why? Most women have numb vaginas and don't experience life-changing, earth-shaking orgasms just because they don't use their vaginas enough. Increase the blood flow in the area, train your pelvic floor muscles, and you will be able to reach any type of orgasm available to any woman. Deep vaginal orgasms and orgasms with ejaculations are the keys to the understanding of how a deep surrender and bliss is possible at birth. Moreover, having strong pelvic floor muscles adds fun for your sexual interaction with your partner and allow you to recover faster after birth.

Online Training for Birth Practitioners:

Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training
The training has drawn midwives, doula trainers and doulas, childbirth educators, practitioners of chinese medicine, and practitioners of other modalities from around the globe. The founder of this project, Katerina Morin is an alumni of this program. You can find her testimonial here.

Moreover, to learn more about the practical steps we plan to make to create Ecstatic Birth Culture in Startup City Mariposa and its feasibility, click here.